Sacrament of Marriage

“‘The intimate community of life and love which constitutes the married state has been established by the Creator and endowed by him with its own proper laws. . . . God himself is the author of marriage.’ The vocation to marriage is written in the very nature of man and woman as they came from the hand of the Creator.  Marriage is not a purely human institution despite the many variations it may have undergone through the centuries in different cultures, social structures, and spiritual attitudes.” (Catechism of the Catholic Church, #1603)

I want to have my wedding at St. Paul. What do I need to do?

St. Paul parishioners who wish to begin preparations for the Sacrament of Marriage should email Colleen Tolliver or call her at 313.885.8855 x151 at least six months in advance of the wedding date.

Either the bride or groom must be a registered member at St. Paul on the Lake for at least six months prior to meeting with the priest or deacon regarding marriage.

What kind of preparation is required?

Because the Catholic Church considers marriage a sacrament, we want couples to be well-prepared. Rather than a burden, couples are encouraged to view this time of preparation as a way of getting to know each other better and growing closer to Christ.  Couples are expected to:

  • Complete the Prepare-Enrich pre-marriage inventory assessment
  • Meet with a licensed psychologist to review the assessment results and discuss any issues
  • Complete the online Archdiocese of Detroit marriage preparation course
  • Meet with clergy at least 6 months prior to wedding and throughout your preparation process
  • Meet with the Director of Music to discuss desired wedding music and songs
  • Submit relevant sacramental records (i.e., Baptism, Confirmation) to the parish

When you meet with the parish priest or deacon, he will explain how you can fulfill the above requirements.

My fiancé(e) is a baptized Christian but not Catholic? Is this a problem?

Catholics can marry another baptized Christian. In fact, this has become quite common. When you meet with the parish priest or deacon, he will explain any special arrangements that will need to be made.